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Could you ever forgive the person that is ultimately responsible for the death of your child?
Culture & Entertainment
Could you ever forgive the person that is ultimately responsible for the death of your child?
Could you ever forgive the person that is ultimately responsible for the death of your child? Sounds like any easy enough question, right? Garnering a quick HELL NO response, right? Well, before you answer the question, take a read below.
On July 12, 2012 Donna Holcomb's 36 year old son, Michael was killed by a drunk driver. Marvin Carter, 20, left the scene of the crime and was on the run from police for six days. Grief stricken Donna broke down in tears on the witness stand when the judge ordered Marin to spend the next two years in jail. As she held up a picture of her son, she noticed that Marvin too had broken down. Face to face with her son's killer, she was not gripped by anger but with overwhelming sadness for him.
During the trial, Donna leaned that Marvin had been in and out of foster care throughout most of his childhood, suffered physical and sexual abuse, cared for his dying mother when he came out of care at the age of 16 and two weeks before his 18th birthday, she died of a heart attack with him by her side.
It was a world Donna was unfamiliar with. "I've never been a young, black, underprivileged individual in the inner city. This situation opened up my eyes and world to something I've never experienced. I began to really understand and realize the need and the opportunity to, maybe, just help one person. Maybe."
During Marvin's sentence, Donna stays in contact with him via letters. When asked why she began sending him letters, she replied "I couldn't bear the thought of two lives going to waste. My son is dead and somebody else's son is going to be penalized. All of this for nothing". "You can't fake what he went through. This young man has lived through hell growing up. Someone has to start making a difference in his life so that he can see life is worth living"
Marvin responded to Donna's letter apologetically saying "If I could give my life and bring your son back, I would". He then asked if she would mind terribly if he could call her 'mom'. "It feels like you are more like my mom than anyone I've known since my mom died."
When he is released next May, Donna hopes to set up job training for him.
"I hope and pray that the bond we have formed helps him in some way to see himself as a valuable human being and that someone loves and cares for him" WOW! Donna's willingness to open her heart and show unconditional love in a time of grief and despair in certainly commendable. Although I believe that Donna is a woman to be admired, I'm not so sure I could do what she did. Could you? So now, I'd like to ask you again... Could you ever forgive the person that is ultimately responsible for the death of your child?
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